Wednesday, November 19, 2014

So I have these stories....

(Found via Pinterest, attributed to author Anne Lamott)

I posted on a private Facebook group today about some personal fears I have about writing my story -- you know, REALLY writing, for publication. I've stalled quite often when I wanted to write some of the more gritty stories here, because I've been told that's not nice, no one wants negativity, etc, etc, oh-my-aching-head.

I rather love the quotation from Anne Lamott above. It's quite true. However, truth goes both ways, and I have considered that a LOT in the past years, trying to carefully not "out" someone on my blog, be they friend, family, or alien.

I think what I'm left with is this -- the gritty stories are meant to be written in book form, looked over by an editor, hopefully accepted, and printed. Then people can decide if they want to read them or not. I can (and will) use "ID-changed-to-protect-the-perpetrator", but in some cases, that will be impossible, and I look back to Anne Lamott's quotation.

My journals, and these aren't even all of them -- everything from early Korea and earlier were destroyed.

On my blog, I can tell other stories. I'm Photoshopping my airplane photos so when I have less of a headache, I can tell the long story of me flying an airplane (twice) and what it meant to me. I've mentioned before that writing as if writing for a book is a lot harder than writing for a blog post. I don't know if anyone else finds that true, but I do. When I sit here, it just sort of flows from my fingers. Memoir stuff, I worry incessantly that no one wants to hear it, or it will be boring, or it will fall into the "you had to be there" category.

But I'll never know until I try.

(Anyone know a good publisher who's willing to take a chance on me?)

Who knows what is behind Door #1.

One thing I'm finding true -- not everything needs to be written publicly. That's the beauty of private Facebook groups, messages, emails, phone calls, and the delete button. I often cross the line for some people, but I do think when I have something to write (especially now, since I so recently got my behind and my head handed to me on a platter for writing about MYSELF). I will think twice, but I'll still write.

But I have these stories. Some are really, really interesting, some have incredible morals, some are hilarious, and some are tear-jerkers (never ask me about snow in November, for instance). I don't know why I have to go through all the pain and mental agony that Lyme, Babesia, Mycoplasma, and non-alcoholic liver disease bring into my life, but there has to be a reason. Maybe writing that book is the reason. Maybe I need to not fear negative reviews, or anonymous emails, or anything like that. I'm sure every author at every level has had to deal with it, so that makes me no different and no more special -- suck it up, buttercup.

Therefore, I'll write my stories. Currently, I only write privately for Zack, because in case something ever happens to me, I want him to know without a doubt how much he means to me, and the things he does that tickle me pink. But I have my own stories.

And I'm going to tell them.

Lori Anderson creates jewelry and bead kits as well as collaborative mixed media art with her son, Zack. Visit her shops by clicking on the right side bar of this blog (please and thank you!). She is also the creator of the Bead Soup Blog Party® and author of the book "Bead Soup" via Kalmbach Publishing. 


  1. Bravo! You go for it, Lori!

  2. I look forward to reading them, should you decide to share them publicly. Or even if you just want to send them to a select group of friends, I am game! Follow your heart Lori. :)

  3. Anonymous10:38 PM

    Intriguing indeed.

  4. tell your stories.......

  5. You go Lori...I know I am behind you and would love to read what you have to say...I to feel that there are those of us who have to go through very rough times so that we can write about them to help those who can't get through them...I don't know any publishers, but I will read what you print! Good luck to you and may God be with you!

  6. I really look forward to reading them if you decide to write

  7. Just do it! You've been talking about it for years. Just start writing. And write more and more and more. Don't worry about publishers or critics or anything. Just write. And read " Do the Work" by Steven Pressfield.

  8. Have you ever considered having a separate blog to write those things on? Just as a backup plan or something for if the publishing doesn't work out. I mean that way this current blog would be separate from those kinds of things, and you'd still have an outlet for what you really want to say.

    On a side note, I think you should proceed in the best way that suits you, not how other people feel you should behave. They're your stories and life; if you want/need to share, that's up to you.

  9. Nicole, I've thought of that, but publishers don't like to print what's already printed, and it's my high hope to have a real book. Good idea if that falls through, though!

  10. I am so happy to hear that you are writing about your life. I am looking forward to reading it. The good, the bad, and the ugly are all part of life. The bad that we go through make us stronger people and reading about it can be inspiring and helpful to others who are struggling. Good luck finding a publisher.

  11. Anonymous10:14 PM

    I believe that whatever your heart/gut tells you to do you should do it as well as you can.


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