Saturday, October 11, 2014

Don't Forget to Say You Care (31 Days, Day 11)

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You have awesome people in your life.  One, ten, a hundred. It's very easy to get overwhelmed with our lives and forget to stay in touch, or flat out not have the time to take a shower, never mind keeping up with all the people you'd like to. So how do you let them know what they mean to you?

Over the past couple of months I've been gifted with a ton of cards and a lovely box of fun things from various people. Some of them I knew. Some of them I didn't. I am extraordinarily grateful for every email, card, and prezzie that has crossed my path. It all made me think about how we stay connected to friends.

Most of my friends are online friends via Facebook.  I have friends I made face-to-face, but they live so far away, in different states and countries, I can't just have them drop by the house or even meet them easily. Often I've felt very lonely in the midst of a room full of people. Yet today, when I ran into two moms of Zack's friends in Target, I realized that I may have more people in my life than I realize, and I need to remember to let them know they are valued, and I need to open my mind more towards meeting new people and making connections.

One mom asked me for information to help a friend with Lyme disease. I owe her a long email with information I've found over the year.  The other mom and I decided we had to get out of our houses more, so we talked about getting her daughter and my son together for a crafts play date. One day, duct tape wallets, another day, making homemade fudge. I asked her to go home and take a look at her calendar and let me know what Fridays worked for her, and then suggested we call each other for a walk, even if it's just around the block.

Maybe our walk will include a playground!

Later in the day I called a local friend who has been battling a lot of health issues that keep the two of us quarantined from each other a lot. We still find ways to show we care. If I'm in her neighborhood, I call and see if she wants a coffee dropped off, and when she's on my side of town, she calls to see if I need something from the grocery store. These sound like simple things, but to me, they're important and valuable. Even a text or email or phone call to say, "Just wanted you to know I'm thinking about you" can mean the world, you know?

Some people grow up with tons of friends and have a hopping social life, while others have one or two close friends and a group of acquaintances that drift in and out of their lives depending upon the timing.  People change, but with change comes opportunities yet to be explored, and new people to meet, whether online or in the real world.

Zack and a friend from years ago.

Here's what I hope you take away from this. 

Look through your address book. Send an email to someone you haven't talked to in a long time. 

Mail a card to someone you used to hang out with a lot but have lost touch with. 

Drop by a friend's house with a cup of coffee or something yummy just because. 


It's so important to tell your friends you care. With life at its fast pace, things fly by and before we know it, we can't remember the last time we talked to someone.  Take some time, make a phone call, send an email, and reconnect. Your life will feel larger and happier, I'll bet.

And isn't that awesome?

Lori Anderson creates jewelry and bead kits as well as collaborative mixed media art with her son, Zack. Visit her shops by clicking on the right side bar of this blog (please and thank you!). She is also the creator of the Bead Soup Blog Party® and author of the book "Bead Soup" via Kalmbach Publishing.


  1. Thank you for challenging me Lori. For a little over a year now I have purposefully sheltered myself from most people and become very much a loner / recluse. This all came about due to difficulties I had with the brother that I was caring for ~ at one point when I really, REALLY needed it, I asked the rest of my family for help (parents, other brothers and my sister) . . . not much help, just someone to listen to me and support me in my difficulties. Not one of them would help me but all in fact blamed me. My only sister was so outright cruel to me that I am unsure whether I will ever want to see her again. I almost died . . . I am slowly learning to be okay again. My son's wedding was two weeks ago and it was a very difficult decision to allow my parents to be there even though he is their 1st grandchild. I made it through and found joy not only in the occasion but in some of the amazing people I met through it. It felt healing and refreshing and renewing and hopeful. Your post reminds me not to return to my dark aloneness but to embrace and nurture these feelings through the "awesomeness" that surrounds me. It is humbling to witness and be a part of that and your challenge is accepted with an open and very grateful heart. many hugs to you always!

  2. Great post, Lori. That is awesome!

  3. I really tend to be a recluse myself so I host a potluck once a month so I make sure I do connect with my local friends. A lot of us have health issues but since it is a potluck and a cooperative effort, it make it a lot easier for everyone.

  4. Great post Lori.
    And you are so right!
    Thank you for reminding me.
    Love ya

  5. This was Awsome Lori!! love checking in on friends. Recinnect.the playdate for Zach, these posts have blessed me made me think about how I can help others . Day 11 sounded like a good day. <3 gina

  6. This is absolutely awesome Lori and so are you. Thank you for being a friend.

  7. Another great post. My parents recently moved to my town, and I am so thrilled and grateful to be able to spend time with them often instead of every couple of months!

  8. What a wonderful post Lori. I am thrilled to hear that you are connecting with new people. I have found it difficult to connect sometimes too. Today I connected with a new friend and I am sure we will spend time together from now on.

  9. I have a little ritual I did last week. A total lunar eclipse has both the power of the full moon and the power of the new moon at the same time. It's a great time for releasing the things that no longer serve you, while also asking for the new things you want in your life to replace the old. I wrote all the old useless things down on little slips of paper and burn them. Then made a list of the new things I want, thanking the universe for them, and place the list in a silver box in the northwest corner of my home (feng shui). High on my list of wants was better friendship connections, as I've become a little isolated lately. In the last few days, I've had 2 of my grade school best friends reach out to me, rekindled a friendship with someone I had a falling out with last Christmas, and made several new friends. The universe does provide what we ask for, we just need to have faith.

  10. Yes, it is absolutely awesome!! Thanks for the reminder!

  11. I definitely fall short in this department of my life. Isolating due to feeling overwhelmed, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, stressed out about (insert life issue here) probably isn't the best coping strategy. I also don't want to be a 'Debbie Downer'. No more excuses, starting today! 😊

  12. I think many of us are in short supply of keeping up with friends...thanks for the reminder! Hugs and prayers for you!

  13. Thank you Lori Dear. Reaching out to others is such an important part of our happiness too. This is why I participate in Random Acts of Mail...every week. Such a small gesture on my part can make such a huge difference to the recipient. Blessings My Friend...

  14. Hi Lori, Thanx for the reminder. There are a couple of people I need to contact.


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