Monday, May 23, 2011

What I Want

(Also published today:

What I Want

To remember this when I'm in tears.


To remember that plus-size can be pretty
and it's a lot about the attitude.

To remember that although one of my greatest regrets
is I never was allowed to take dance lessons, 
to remember to dance every day in my imagination.


To remember no matter what it is, 
this too shall pass.

Secret fact:

A dear friend of mine,
far more fluent than I in Korean,
sat with me on the phone, both of us with 
Chinese symbol dictionaries on our laps, 
searching for the characteres that translated into Korean
for "survivor".

Not just "survivor",
but, "to survive immense emotional pain with dignity 
and come out better for it".

Two symbols fit.

This is an example of 
"does not quite translate into English".

My tattoo is hidden 
unless I wear a swim suit
which isn't happening any time soon.
But I take immense comfort knowing it's there.

Because life is about mistakes.
No day is perfect.
They can just feel that way.

Cherish them when they do!
Let them go when they don't.

Lori Anderson creates jewelry for her web site, Lori Anderson Designs, and wrote the blog An Artist's Year Off.  She's also a contributor to Art Bead Scene.  She is also the creator of the Bead Soup Blog Party.


  1. Good advice Lori!
    Enjoy the day!

  2. Beautiful post, Lori! Thank you!

  3. Those are all awesome images, but my fave has to be the "Let's make better mistakes tomorrow". Yesssss!!!

  4. Anonymous6:57 PM

    great post. i need to remember these things as well.

  5. The physically most beautiful woman I know (who also happens to be the spiritually most beautiful) is a ginger, freckled, very curvy goddess of what is regarded as plus- size. She is like Mother Earth. It might be impossible for her to buy clothes at H&M, but nothing about her would even make you think "fat" or even "plus- size". All you see is the mere image of the perfect woman. Soft on the outside like the place you need to land on, but hard as nails on the inside when she needs to be. I truthfully don't think that beauty is defined by dress size. Beauty can be an old, faded tattoo that shows who the person was 35 years ago, or a broken nosed. Beauty can be a tired smile after a long day or a bald head after chemotherapy. Beauty certainly is an 80 year old woman showing off her long, white hair and a 50 year old mother walking hand in hand with her 30 year old daughter.
    Lori, I had dancing lessons, and out of the ten that were paid for, I attended 2.5, leaving the place halfway through the third. I hated it so much! It was like trying to put music into a corset that just wouldn't fit. When I want to express my feelings through music, I do it through Metal. All the aggression, frustration and helplessness comes out in one session, and nobody can see the tears through all the flying hair... I come out of it refreshed and, well, new. Everybody needs to ('scuse the pun) shout and let it all out sometimes, and Metal is my lullaby. Sorry, Mum, this daughter of yours ain't gonna be no ballerina! Dang tutu wouldn't fit, anyway.

  6. "This too shall pass" is one of my favorites. I also quite like, "It takes as long as it takes". There are many more that qualify as wise words to live by but you have said it all so well once again. Thank you Lori...

  7. Glad I stopped by today, thank you.

  8. Wow....Love it....Thank you Lori... :0)

  9. Hmmm . . . I know you touched into a lot of vulnerable places today.

    Great post.
    Celebrate who you are because ONLY YOU can do it so very well.

  10. great post it!

  11. Wonderful advice, Lori!

  12. Powerful. Amen. Thank you.

  13. Such wonderful advice! I, too, want to remember this the next time I feel sad or defeated.

    Enjoy your day!

  14. Anonymous7:36 AM

    Thanks Lori! You always seem to say the things that resonate with me.

  15. Hi Lori,wonderful inspirations once again, u just know how to say it and say it well!! take care ttfn L:)

  16. Anonymous9:46 AM

    Let's make better mistakes tomorrow... Love it...
    Thank you, Lori
    Take care!

  17. Incredible, Lori, absolutely incredible.

  18. Kathleen3:22 PM

    Hello Lori,

    I am uplifted by many of your posts. Thank you for heartfelt sharing.

  19. It's nice to be reminded of these things. It's so easy to forget and get caught-up in ourselves.

  20. Just what I need to remember....and I thank you for sharing these words of wisdom!!! xo

  21. I love the images - and the tattoo concept! I've always wanted a tatoo of a rose surrounded by broken chains to symbolize that I do NOT have to be chained and trapped by my challenges.

  22. This post is so powerful. You truly have a gift for writing.

  23. Oh you don't need lessons to dance. The only lesson I got was "shut your eyes, listen to the music, and forget everything else". And after that...I have enthralled everyone on any dance floor I have been on :)


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