She had the same situation, but far worse. She was living in Thailand when I knew her, and having been hospitalized in a foreign country before, I knew she wasn't having a good time of it. Photos of her miserable in the hospital when surgery after surgery couldn't successfully place a shunt made me hurt for her.
There are many "ribbon causes", so I looked up IIH and found the awareness colors for our shared malady are dark blue and dark green. I made up some bracelets and they sold. Through a mutual friend, I found out she really loved one in particular, so I made it for her and shipped it off as a surprise.
Unfortunately, Tanya fell ill with one more thing, and then another, and in early January, she passed away. Far too quickly, and far too soon.
Before she died, certain events led to she and I having some long heart-to-heart email conversations about our friendship. I've sat staring at this screen trying to figure out how to put into words all the things that led to those conversations, but it doesn't matter anymore, does it? I am just so glad we were able to reconnect, and knowing those last emails were good ones with friendship intact gives me some small peace.
You never know when something will happen, and this has taught me a valuable life lesson. It takes two to make a friendship, and it takes two to keep a friendship. It's hard to admit to hurting a friend -- for not having the courage to stand up for her better. I won't make that mistake again.
I miss my friend.
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Rana Lea http://ranaleadesigns.blogspot.com/
Leah Curtis http://beadyeyedbunny.blogspot.co.uk/