Monday, November 14, 2011

New Endeavors

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Thank you for the kind words and many emails you all sent to me.  We shared a lot of history with each other and it was like I thought -- almost everyone feels miserable sometimes.


I'm making some changes in my life.  After many tearful discussions this weekend with my husband, I've decided that as of December 6th, when my manuscript is due to the publisher, life starts over.  Life can start over many different times during your life, did you know that?


One of the things I did tonight was resign from Art Bead Scene.  I do love to write, but I feel I need to focus on some different types of writing.  I hope to share with you what I would have shared there, and I hope to make my voice heard on some other crafting venues.  I have plans to write an eBook.  I also fully intend on starting my memoirs.  So next year will be full of writing exploration.


I also intend to do some soul-searching, probably with some help.  There's nothing at all wrong with admitting you need some help now and then, and it doesn't mean my husband, who is so dear to me, isn't helping me.  But it's been a while.  Time for a tune-up.


If I can swing it, I would love to spend a weekend at a yoga/pilates/spa retreat.  I used to be in such good shape.  Round is indeed a shape but I hate it and December 7th, things will change.  I used to be an aerobics instructor and a personal trainer so it's not like I don't know what I'm doing.


I'm also going to learn to say "no" more often.  That doesn't mean I won't be a nice person anymore.  It just means I won't overextend myself.  I love to keep my calendar full, but decorating and cleaning the house is going to take the place of some other things.


Life is supposed to be lived, and right now I feel as fragile as a soap bubble.  But I have a date circled on my calendar -- December 6th -- that gives me something to look towards.  I'm lucky in that.  There were years when there seemed to be no end at all in sight.


Thanks for sticking with me, and I hope to bring you joy in the coming year.




Lori Anderson creates jewelry for her web site, Lori Anderson Designs, and wrote the blog An Artist's Year Off.  She's also a contributor to Art Bead Scene and is the creator of the Bead Soup Blog Party.

51 comments:

  1. Good for you. You are a wonderful lady and the best thing you can do is to put yourself first for a change. As I said before, *hugs* :-)

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  2. It's great that you have a plan, and a very good one at that!

    Just as you inspire us, I hope we can do the same for you--sort of like cheerleaders in your life. We all need that from people now and then (and I'm not talking about just husbands).

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  3. We can get bogged down by things and not even realize it. And those, like you, with a bubbly personality hide it well when things begin to wind-out too tight. Never feel guilty for having to relieve the stress by reducing what's being done. It really is okay to be selfish once in awhile and take some "me" time. You're not being a "Me-Monster," you're just taking care of you. So, take care of you!

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  4. Like peanut butter, and you bring joy NOW!! Hugs, Kim

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  5. Sounds great! I'm proud of you, Lori.

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  6. Lori,
    You are such an amazing person, so strong, so creative, so talented. You will rock in this new adventure!

    I think that as women, we often forget that we need to take care of ourselves first! Be good to you.

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  7. All the best to you in whatever your next phase will be! Change is good.

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  8. I think you've made some wise decisions.

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  9. You are my hero! I meant to comment on your other post, as I feel that way all the time...I am really such a loner, my husband is my best friend. I have wonderful blogland buds, but no real-life ones...just co-workers, acquaintances, and relatives. Most of the relatives are not in this state, so there you go! Hugs!

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  10. Wonderful first step! Bring YOURSELF joy and the rest will take care of itself! Getting back to what's most important in life is pivotal to that joy. Find balance again in home, health, family and work. You will be successful if you do these things! Here's to December 6th!

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  11. Great. Everyone needs to take time for themselves and things they NEED to do. Congrats on getting a date and plan together.

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  12. Good for you for doing what you want and need to do. Been there. You'll be so much happier. :)

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  13. Lori,

    Good for you! I'm excited about all the changes you're going to make and proud of you for deciding to make them.

    If you want a fun way to get in shape, hula hooping/hoop dancing is excellent because it's so much fun. Hooping.org is a great place to start if you're interested, and you can even make your own hoops!

    Just a thought.

    *Hugs.*

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  14. Well done you! My husband always says: "Life is not a dress rehearsal!" Enjoy your new move into different directions! You will excel at it I am sure! Looking forward to hearing about the new adventure!

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  15. Sounds like you are making some very positive changes! Best wishes as you start this new journey.

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  16. All the best in your new endeavors!! :)

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  17. Lori, this is wonderful. I'm glad you've got a plan. If you ever need someone to cheer you on, I'm always here for you.

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  18. This is wonderful news! I'm so glad that you're going to make some changes and focus on what you need and want.

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  19. Lori I am so pleased to hear of your new plans for Living Life! Saying NO isn't so hard when you are still giving so much to so many. I learned to do it and it has helped me tremendously. Putting YOU first will actually help your husband and Zack. Warm Hugs dear...

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  20. Hello,
    It is good to talk with therapist about what´s going inside our mind and head...I have done that too...years, since my teenage years but quit few years ago. I hope you will find your peace and happiness.

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  21. I had your previous post up trying to think of what to say. Obviously, lots of other people didn't have that problem. It sounds like you've made some good decisions and I hope everything does something good for you. You do deserve it:)

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  22. I'm catching up on blog reading and have just read your previous post, and of course, this one too. I'm so sorry you've been feeling so down, but I agree with many of the comments on here in that you've made some very good decisions! I'll be sad not to see you writing on ABS, but this just means you'll be able to try out new stuff - which is really exciting!

    I applaud you for having the courage to make the changes necessary to turn things around for you, and to put yourself first. It takes a lot of courage, and not everyone can do it. You are one in a million, Lori, and don't forget that!

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  23. It sounds like you've done some heavy thinking and thoughtful planning. Sometimes we have to leave a few things--jobs, activities, even relationships with some people, when they weigh us down too much rather than lift us up, or simply crowd out the space where other, better things could be. I've always learned this the hard way, and have had to learn it over again many times. But it sounds like you have it figured out. Our very best wishes go out to you, Lori, whatever you do, whatever it takes.

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  24. Best to you always Lori and with your new path.

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  25. Lori, I'm so happy for you! We usually have to feel so uncomfortable in our skin that making a radical change seems to be the lesser of two evils.

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  26. Lori - Great to hear you sounding so positive. Just making a decision to act and take control of your life can be so rejuvenating. It's fine to bring things to a conclusion to make time for new activities, that's the way we all grow and it gives us a richer life which we can in turn share and inspire others with. And as for saying no -it's so empowering, it's the one thing I love about getting older as I realise I don't need to try to please everyone all the time. I really hope it all works out for you.

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  27. :-) And as I said - love you, Lori!

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  28. Hi Lori, you may not know it...but sharing your true self with others is one of the most selfless things i have ever seen anyone do...Lori you are amazing women and i have every faith you will find yourself in your new challanges and come out on top of the world...and all the while helping others realize they are not alone in this big crazy world...i look forward to following you through it all...
    take care ttfn Lana xoxo

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  29. Indeed, Lori, we can start over as many times as we like. We can restart, start fresh, jump start, whatever. I am happy you recognize this because it is the very first step. I also think tune-ups are a fine thing to do. I've had a few myself. It is wonderful to have a supportive partner but sometimes you need to go to the 'auto shop' to get the full set of maintenance service. As for the round shape, I am recently 30 pounds less round than I was. I've spent a couple of years feeling very bad about myself because of my roundness. But I've realized the feeling bad wasn't really about my outward appearance. It was more about roundness stemming from just feeling bad in general. Tune-ups are good and finding you limits are good, my friend, and I support you in whatever way I can.

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  30. Yes, you are doing the right thing making changes that you feel necessary. Life takes us down many paths at different times in our life and we need to follow that path to be true to ourselves. We are just making ourselfes truer and stronger by following those paths. I too am going to be making some changes this next year so I will be following you and sending good thoughts and prayers your way. Good luck.

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  31. Looking forward to hearing where this new path takes you! You have many people cheering you on!!
    Hugs, Christine

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  32. I am excited for you Lori! Do what is best for you and what makes you happy-life is too short to live any other way. Thank you for being so open, it has brought together wonderful people who share many of the same feelings. Best wishes to you...now, on to your next adventure!

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  33. Good for you Lori.
    It's always a good day to start anew.

    We've all got your back.

    Love and good wishes on your journey,

    Cathie

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  34. Congratulations on your decision to renew Lori. I'm starting over, again, too. Sometimes we don't have a choice...or DO we!?

    I would like to recommend The Landmark Forum (http://www.landmarkeducation.com/) and/or Soul Mapping (http://www.amazon.com/Soul-Mapping-Imaginative-Way-Self-Discovery/dp/1569246459). Either is a great start!

    Thanks for continuing to inspire me with your life!

    Mona

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  35. I am so excited that you have some new endeavors. I know we can get bogged down on things because we are out of practice in setting boundaries...life gets complicated and the boundaries get out of focus. Time to reflect and grow and take of you. Writing can be fulfilling and a growth experience...glad you are doing that. I will be praying for you Lori, that you will find the peace that you are longing for right now and for the joy to spring back to life. Joy to me is like a flower, you have to keep fertilizing it otherwise it wilts. Find the joy in the littliest of things as well. You are a wonderful person with a beautiful and caring spirit. Take care of that spirit. (((HUGS))) and much success in your new endeavors! God Bless you!

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  36. Sometimes we just loose ourselves and it's a good thing that now you feel the urge to give yourself time to find you.
    You have a lot of real supporters that love you (I'm one of them) and we know that as of December 6th you will find new ways to rock!
    You are awesome, don't forget it.
    Big hug!

    Ambra

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  37. Hi Lori, It must be time for type A people to re-evaluate. I haven't written on my blog in a while because I, too, am overwhelmed with life. One thing, I have been doing is exercise. I live for my yoga and tennis. I also completely changed my eating. I take lots of herbal and mineral supplements and am also completely gluten free. 7 hours of sleep a night helps too. I still have not learned to say no, but I am working on that. Stay in touch during your journey.

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  38. Hey ladies - Let's all raise a glass to Lori on Dec. 6th... 6 pm (wherever you are) with best wishes for the coming year - for ALL!

    And Lori - you'd be surprised how strong soap bubbles are :) SO looking forward to taking this ride with you!! Enjoy ~~T

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  39. Oh yeah... and "no" doesn't always need to NO, it could be I'll think about it... and then, no I think I'll pass on that for now... ~~T

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  40. Rah, Rah for Lori, dosn't it feel good to make life changing decisions after taking a deep breath. Take care of you. and put your toung behind your front teeth and say NO^:) You are so loved.
    Be blessed to be a blessing

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  41. Good for you Lori, we all need to readjust things now and then and sometimes it feels like it has to be done now. I did it too. can't juggle it all right? and some things have to get back into being priorities. I don't always comment but keep reading your blog. I had to step back from blogging a while ago. Good Luck on your new endeavors Lori! smile, Virginie ViviBijoux

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  42. Anonymous10:29 AM

    Wow! Good for you........I hope I can be more like you in 2012!! I am in desperate need of self renewal on so many levels! Life is too short, not to live it on your terms and I think many women/mothers forget to do put themselves first........I hope you find/get what you are seeking!

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  43. Yay! and Hugs all the way!!

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  44. Remember we make up the rules as we go...
    on a side note, Round is in fact a shape, I am round...so I know...lol
    Jelveh
    Peace

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  45. Good for you, Miss Lori. You know what you need and are taking steps to get it. Blessings to you on this journey. And that is a 'something good' for sure.
    Enjoy the day.
    Erin

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  46. sounds like you have a great plan..more time for you and your family is always a good thing.

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  47. You Go! Thumbs up to a new Life well lived.

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  48. I've been wondering what was going on with your book! I am excited for you, for your future plans.

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