Today I've been in a reflective mood.
Taking stock of things.
Figuring out what's worth my time, and what should be thrown in the figurative trash.
It's not that I don't think like this on a regular basis. I mean, all of us at some time or other sit down and think, "This or that is just not worth the effort I'm giving it," or "This person just does not have the power to make me have a bad day."
So why did this hit me today?
All because of a pair of stinky shoes.
I was buzzing around the house, trying to make up for lost time, still sniffling and coughing from my ill-timed cold, when I saw Zack's tennis shoes, sitting alone against the wall of the laundry room. And there was just something so poignant about them I had to stop and stand and just look at them for a quiet moment.
Those shoes are small, and dirty, and stinky. Zack still has trouble tying them and I smile as I remember how I could read on a high grade level in Kindergarten but couldn't tie my own shoes for what seemed like forever. I think of Zack whooping with joy when I say, "OK," to his asking to go somewhere when he's sure I'll say "no", and his cramming his feet in those shoes.
This is what's important. These moments. Those shoes.
Don't get me wrong -- life here isn't all roses. I write about the roses but I also share the thorns, and there are actually more thorns than anyone would ever care to read about (isn't that true of all of us?). But when life gets thorny, I now have this picture of stinky shoes to remind me it's about small things, simple things, that can make life a joy.
For you, it may not be stinky shoes. I'm sure if you think for a second, you can fill in that spot with something equally meaningful. Now, go take a picture of it, and if you're up to it, post it on your blog, as a little talisman of control. Because you CAN take control, if only for a few moments of your day or of a few things in your life.
Even if it's putting away some stinky shoes.
Lori Anderson creates jewelry for her web site, Lori Anderson Designs, and wrote the blog An Artist's Year Off. She's also a contributor to Art Bead Scene. She is also the creator of the Bead Soup Blog Party.