Monday, August 23, 2010

The Healing Begins -- Volunteering at the Humane Society

So many of you came out with condolences when I lost my 19-year old Himalayan cat, Buddy.

The healing process has been hard.  My other cat, Max, will disappear the entire day, only to resurface at night to sleep with me. The sleeping-with-me bit is wonderful, but Buddy was a constant.  He was loyal and kept by my side and in the same room I'd be in all day, even if he was snoozing.  He must have had kitty radar that way.


The other day I went into PetSmart.  I wanted to see the cats they had for adoption, although I knew without a doubt that I was. not. ready. for another cat.

First I spent an inordinate amount of time examining the turtles.  My son and I actually do love water turtles.  Then I worked up to the birds.  I love wrens.  Then I moved to the hamsters.

Finally, I slowly made it to the Adoption Station, run by the Talbot Humane Society.  A woman was volunteering at the time, and all the cats on display at the time were kittens.  And I felt...

Nothing.  I missed my own cat too much.

I chatted with the volunteer, relating why I was there, working up my courage to not cry at the sight of another cat.  She suggested I volunteer as a way to ease my way into things.

What a brilliant idea.

So I'm proud to say I am going to orientation at the Humane Society on September 4th.  I've asked for the Kitty Cuddle and other Shelter functions.  I'm not good at fund-raising, other than handing over jewelry -- I don't do well on the phone.  But I hope this will bring some sort of peace. And you never know.  Rick and I decided that we would adopt an adult cat, not a kitten, so maybe that cat will make him or herself known over time.

And maybe I can do some good.


Lori Anderson makes jewelry for Lori Anderson Designs and also writes for the blog An Artist's Year Off.  She loves cats.

29 comments:

  1. Good for you Lori! What a great way to channel your grief, and help animals at the same time!

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  2. Way to go, Lori! You'll be great cuddling the fur babies. And who knows, maybe another will worm it's way into your heart. Buddy would like that.

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  3. Awww, what a wonderful step towards healing. And how greatful all those little kitties and homeless cats will be for all the affection you can show them.

    Big hugs sweetie! Baby steps, and you just never know where those steps will lead!

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  4. I would love to do that too...what better way to heal. I have the feeling you will find one heck of a cat bf long to give a great home to. Those cats are they your cats the one who passed and the other one? If so what beautiful cats. Whats the old saying..be strong and carry on!

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  5. Sounds great, Lori! Hope this helps you healing.

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  6. that's very kind of you to volunteer..i donate to the local HHS.
    perhaps you will meet a cat there that speaks to you.
    the relationship you had with your old cat developed over time.
    it's something to keep in mind when considering a new pet..

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  7. Starting a new friendship will be hard but you need to think of it that way and not a replacement. I know how much you loved Buddy and what he meant to you and someday you will find someone furry that you want to get to know, so just wait for that and you will know what I mean. When I met my Cinder she was 4 months old and put her paw out of the cage and said "hey I want you" that is how it happened with me. Volunteering will help for sure but Buddy will never leave your heart you will just make room for another cherished friend.

    Hugs and Love

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  8. That is such a great idea! I hope it helps ease the pain a little and I am sure they are lucky to have you!

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  9. Now this is a beautiful way to hasten the healing Lori! I am proud of you...for working up from the turtles and hamsters and for gathering strength to talk about your grief but mostly for doing something proactive about it. I think that you will make a difference in the lives of these animals that you cuddle and love and I am certain that one day when you are really ready, a furry face will show itself that you will be ready to pour your love into! I just know it will. And I know that Buddy would be purring just thinking of it.
    Enjoy the day, Lori!
    Erin

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  10. Lori, there is never a "chance" occuring so you were meant to meet that particular volunteer. Your heart will tell you when you're ready for another love bundle... until then just lavis affection on the kitties who are in need of a home. You will both gain that way!

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  11. That's a wonderful idea!

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  12. thats wonderful Lori, and a great way to ease into getting a new cat...it will give you the time you need to heal and to want another furry friend, I lost my dad last month, and a week later I lost my kitty too......so I do know what you are going through, I am staying at my dads, trying to get his estate in order, and it seems I have inherited a feral cat that my dad had been feeding...... He won't let me touch him yet..but he is amazingly beautiful, he may be a russian blue....he has short thick dark grey fur and deep amber eyes, and he lets me know when he is hungry, he is a talker! I have been thinking about volunteering at the local humane society here too, as we will be moving to my dads house soon, and it would give me something to do......is the cat at the bottom of your post your other cat? it is beautiful

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  13. Good for you! I'm so glad you are strong, because I have to pretend those buildings with all those cute animals don't exist. I can't even go to PetSmart on adoptions day. <3

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  14. It is tough and it takes time but I think this is a great way to help move forward. And who knows maybe one will win you over.

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  15. How Wonderful Lori! Is Kitty Cuddle exactly what it sounds like? How awesome:)Good for you!!

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  16. what a perfect thing to do at this time! helping other cats find good homes, while you aren't ready yet to open yours again! wow, just good good job!

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  17. That is woderful to hear!

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  18. Lori
    I think I've seen this very shelter when driving to and from the beach. I think you have come across such a wonderful idea, for such a cat lover such as yourself. You will be bringing assistance and company to many furry friends and to people as well...I have a good feeling about this. :-)

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  19. Oh, my! I know exactly what you mean... I love my Molly Dolly, but she's so independent (dog). She's not cuddly unless there is a thunderstorm. She "allows" me to cuddle her, but sometimes she runs when I want cuddling. But, Bijou was always close by and ready for a cuddle whenever I wanted. Even though he's been gone nearly two years, I miss him for that reason.

    I love your idea of volunteering as healing. I don't think I could do that...I'd come home with 12 animals.

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  20. I am so amazed by your courage. I am missing some of that after 12 years.... The right cat will find you one day and Buddy will watch you guys.

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  21. So good the hear that you´re already on your healing way. I´ve been thinking about you and your loss. Take your time and let the good things flow to you. You need the time to to say goodbye. I wish you so much luck with your work - and remember this: YOU mean a lot to others. The cats are lucky to have your love at the shelter. Big big hugs!!!!

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  22. I know how difficult it is to lose a furry member of your family. I lost my Jezebel at 20yrs old and her son Molson was 18, I don't ever remember not having them. Your volunteer work will be a giant step towards healing. My guess is that you will find another family member in no time.

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  23. I'm so sorry for your loss, sweetie. Good for you with the volunteering! I hope it helps ease your heartache and brings some joy! Love, keiara xox

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  24. I am so sorry about your kitty. They do become our constant companions don't they? Even if they do sleep all day:)) I have a himmie as well. They are such smart cats. I am sure you will enjoy helping the humane society.

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  25. Great idea! And your cat will find you. My last 3 found me when I did not even know I was looking for them. Great cats just happen.

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  26. What a wonderful way to honor Buddy and to begin healing.

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  27. So sorry about Buddy. It takes a special type of person to do this work.

    PD

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  28. I know this is a very late comment, but, oh how this post tugs at my heart. I'm not yet ready for a new family member yet. I also keep telling myself 2 hands, 2 dogs, enough. Who knows. You are a brave soul and my hero.

    Love to you.

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